Deciding whether or not to do a first look is one of those small-but-big wedding decisions. It’s a personal choice, and there’s no right or wrong—just what feels best for you as a couple. Here’s a quick look at the pros and cons to help you decide:
Pros of a First Look:
- A Private Moment Together: It’s an intimate, quiet pause before the day gets busy. Many couples say it helps calm the nerves and lets them soak in the moment, just the two of them.
- More Time for Photos: Seeing each other before the ceremony gives your photographer more flexibility and time for those dreamy portraits—without rushing.
- You Can Enjoy Cocktail Hour: With most photos done beforehand, you’ll actually get to join your guests for cocktails and mingling.
Cons of a First Look:
- Breaks Tradition: If you’ve always imagined seeing each other for the first time at the altar, a first look might take away from that big walk-down-the-aisle moment.
- Changes the Timeline: A first look typically means starting hair, makeup, and photos earlier in the day, which can make for a longer wedding schedule.
- It Might Feel Less Spontaneous: Some couples feel the most genuine reaction happens in front of everyone during the ceremony.
Whatever you choose, make sure it aligns with your vision and your values. First look or not, the moment you see each other will be unforgettable.
